Wednesday, 16 January 2013

Sad news

I got a message today I was expecting but not wanting.   A friend in AA passed away today.  She was only in her late 40s unfortunately.

All I can say is she was a lady who was an inspiration to me.  When I joined AA she was relatively new around as well.  I watched her come out of her shell and she was a riot of laughter and a real pleasure to know.  She had known tragedy when she had to deal with the death of a very young grandchild a couple of years back.  Then recently she was diagnosed with terminal lung cancer and there was little chance of a reprieve or that she would get long.  Sadly she didn't.

However an inspiration - to many out there being told your small grandchild has died or that you have terminal cancer would be an excusable reason to take a drink or two or three.  Everyone would appreciate that was not unreasonable.  In both cases my friend, a recovering alcoholic like myself, didn't.  She went through both events sober to the end.

So today is sad news but also an inspiration to me.  I take strength from someone facing this and not picking up a drink.  It knocks away any excuse I might consider keeping up my sleeve as an arrested alcoholic.  There is nothing that happens that is a reasonable excuse for me to drink, because when I drink I damage myself and those around me so badly that will always outweigh whatever it is that provides that excuse.

RIP my friend Lynn.  I will miss you but even today you are nothing but a great example and true inspiration to me.

13 comments:

  1. I'm so sorry to hear about your friend's death. But I am sure she would be pleased to hear your kind words and that she inspired you.

    ReplyDelete
  2. Sorry to hear this, F. She was clearly a wonderful lady.

    ReplyDelete
  3. So sorry to hear this. It's just great that you can take such inspiration from Lynn, what better legacy could she have left you?! - and such a positive way for you to be able to remember her.
    I feel for you too - it's our friend's funeral tomorrow, these things are never easy.

    ReplyDelete
  4. Well done you. I turn to drink when I face tragedies such as forgetting to buy the potatoes or "because it's Tuesday".

    ReplyDelete
  5. I'm so sorry to hear this. She did a grand job of turning her life around and I'm sure you were part of what helped her to do that. You keep going as a kind of memorial to these people.

    ReplyDelete
  6. So very to hear of the loss of your friend - and i agree that her ability to stay true to her desire to stay sober through horrible personal challenges is inspirational!

    ReplyDelete
  7. :-( Sad news, to die so young. But, as you say, an inspirational lady.

    ReplyDelete
  8. I'm sorry to hear of your loss. She does sound like an incredible inspiration. Thank you for passing that on to us.

    ReplyDelete
  9. I am so sorry for your loss. Lynn sounds utterly amazing and yes, truly an inspiration. Thank you for sharing her story with us.

    ReplyDelete
  10. So sorry for your loss. What a lovely tribute for such a strong and inspiring woman. RIP. Thanks for sharing this with us. Hugs my friend.

    ReplyDelete
  11. That is sad. A very brave lady.

    ReplyDelete