I got a message today I was expecting but not wanting. A friend in AA passed away today. She was only in her late 40s unfortunately.
All I can say is she was a lady who was an inspiration to me. When I joined AA she was relatively new around as well. I watched her come out of her shell and she was a riot of laughter and a real pleasure to know. She had known tragedy when she had to deal with the death of a very young grandchild a couple of years back. Then recently she was diagnosed with terminal lung cancer and there was little chance of a reprieve or that she would get long. Sadly she didn't.
However an inspiration - to many out there being told your small grandchild has died or that you have terminal cancer would be an excusable reason to take a drink or two or three. Everyone would appreciate that was not unreasonable. In both cases my friend, a recovering alcoholic like myself, didn't. She went through both events sober to the end.
So today is sad news but also an inspiration to me. I take strength from someone facing this and not picking up a drink. It knocks away any excuse I might consider keeping up my sleeve as an arrested alcoholic. There is nothing that happens that is a reasonable excuse for me to drink, because when I drink I damage myself and those around me so badly that will always outweigh whatever it is that provides that excuse.
RIP my friend Lynn. I will miss you but even today you are nothing but a great example and true inspiration to me.