tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6362772742268382636.post1946222347605504583..comments2023-10-26T22:25:55.658+01:00Comments on Guitars and Life: AA themes - a personal reflectionFurtheronhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11903753972242964410noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6362772742268382636.post-78863009959249243392013-04-21T21:46:22.829+01:002013-04-21T21:46:22.829+01:00Terrific post. I related to most of it and/or have...Terrific post. I related to most of it and/or have heard them in the AA rooms. The only ones that don't quite fit me are the large ego with low self-esteem and pre-occupation with self. But I can understand how these things happen as defenses to our spiritual unwellness. I was a little too beaten down and not allowed to feel sorry for myself, so my struggle has been to exercise a little more ego (with improved self-esteem) and try not to hide in corners while neglecting my needs. <br /><br />And I'd love to share a cup of tea or coffee with you, like any good alkie in recovery :)Judithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16354890444410748967noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6362772742268382636.post-58472317871653881862013-04-19T16:02:30.796+01:002013-04-19T16:02:30.796+01:00Don't know about catching up... I still often ...Don't know about catching up... I still often feel like a 20something in a 50 year old's body! :-)Furtheronhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11903753972242964410noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6362772742268382636.post-60333525844092350892013-04-19T16:00:30.896+01:002013-04-19T16:00:30.896+01:00I could have easily written this myself (not as we...I could have easily written this myself (not as well, thought!) - you nailed it all so well. I too have heard these things, and I too felt that big "click" when someone mentioned about not having the manual to life when I was growing up and in my active alcoholism. But I have that manual now - the big book. and it's amazing how those things seem to slowly vanish - the hard time with emotions, the feeling of being a child in a man's body, of the large ego and low self esteem...all normalize and level out. It's like I am a normal functioning 25 yr old now in a 42 yr old's body. One day I will catch up!<br /><br />Wonderful post, Graham.<br /><br />PaulAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6362772742268382636.post-25610956946462964932013-04-18T09:33:47.676+01:002013-04-18T09:33:47.676+01:00Anonymous Comment sent to me to relay here...
Re...Anonymous Comment sent to me to relay here... <br /><br />Really could identify with the themes you so eloquently describe. Excellent stuff!Furtheronhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11903753972242964410noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6362772742268382636.post-53810923891258569612013-04-18T07:15:22.483+01:002013-04-18T07:15:22.483+01:00Yes, I can also identify with all of those (except...Yes, I can also identify with all of those (except maybe not being able to handle my emotions--I'm quite a selfish person so I find it easy to indulge what I'm feeling). <br /><br />I know a few people who drink a fair bit and sometimes I think it's definitely a way of not thinking about anything, and so one person in particular I know, just goes round and round in circles with the same problems over and over again. A little clarity does go a very long way, as you've found out, but my friend doesn't seem to be at the stage where she wants to think clearly about the pattern she's got herself into.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6362772742268382636.post-57735222785078815502013-04-17T14:12:25.913+01:002013-04-17T14:12:25.913+01:00Spot on - with me I felt all these things were onl...Spot on - with me I felt all these things were only me and that I was a huge failure for feeling like this, so ignore it, smash it via booze, run away, lie, etc. etc. When you finally stop and soberly look at it all it isn't so bad and you can handle / deal with it mostly and if you can't then seek help - obvious I know but how many of us don't do that?Furtheronhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11903753972242964410noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6362772742268382636.post-57913126202750885732013-04-17T13:44:52.591+01:002013-04-17T13:44:52.591+01:00Yes, a lovely honest post!
I think you're righ...Yes, a lovely honest post!<br />I think you're right - as a non-alcoholic I can say I've pretty much felt many of those things my entire life too (especially the first two) - I guess we all just find different ways of dealing with them dependent on many complex reasons and other personality traits: "There but for the grace of God" as they say. I think maybe a big problem many of us have is the tendency to think we're the *only one* who feels that way (often increased by social pressures, when we're young, to be 'normal' - whatever that is!) Perhaps if everyone was a little more honest, candid and relaxed about themselves - just as you've been here now - at least some of those issues could have been alleviated to some degree... but who knows?!Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02423624920558505937noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6362772742268382636.post-43029684303754374772013-04-17T10:13:18.803+01:002013-04-17T10:13:18.803+01:00A very honest post. Thank you for sharing. A very honest post. Thank you for sharing. Nic https://www.blogger.com/profile/16155143861854659940noreply@blogger.com